(Originally published August 15, 2008)
In over one hundred years of psychotherapy very little has changed,
except cosmetically. It is still the fifty-minute hour, the sit-up
face-to-face-talk with a plethora of insights swaddled in the gentle and
dulcet tones of a concerned therapist. There is still the evasion of
the unconscious as a place of ill-defined demons—something to be avoided
at all costs. No one says it, but it is implied in the careful
steering the patient into the present and away from the past. The
Freudians now call it ego-psychology but it is still psychoanalysis with
a slightly different focus; an habiliment—antique get-up with a modern
facade. Sadly, in the name of progress they have moved away from the
past into a more present approach. The same is true for all of the
cognitive/behavior therapies. There is an apotheosis of the present, of
the here-and-now, and a move away from the one thing that is
curative--history. We are historic beings, imprinted
neuro-physiologically with our past. Any proper treatment must address
that history.
Thus far, we have been talking to the wrong brain! Unfortunately,
that brain doesn’t talk, doesn’t understand English and, as a matter of
fact, doesn’t understand words. The correct brain is one that contains
our history, our pain; the lower brain that processes our deep feelings
that can finally liberate us. It does understand feelings; we need to
speak that language—one without words. No one can be cured until we
understand the profound underpinnings of emotional and mental illness.
Words are the province of the top-level neocortex, evolved much later
than the feeling brain. There is a lifetime of experience buried below
that top level that governs our behavior and the development of
symptoms. Therein lies the rub. For it means flouting the warning
about plunging patients into the deep unconscious, an unconscious, they
implore, that will irrevocably disturb the psyche. And it is this
caveat, among many equally wrong, that have kept the practice of
psychotherapy in the dark ages, literally, believing there are dark
forces that propel us here and there beyond our control.
Psychotherapists often bow to history but only as a token. Yet
history, the patient’s past, is medicine, and it is the only medicine
that is curative. The past is a duty for the therapist; without it we
are again in the old psychotherapy of the early 1900’s. Can we imagine
any other branch of medicine still in the grips of the science of 1920?
Freud wrote his major, “Interpretation of Dreams,” at the beginning
of the last century. Surely there is a bit of progress since then.
Once we have a firm grasp of history and its evolution we will know
that addressing mental illness is not a matter of just understanding it
but being immersed in it; submerged in our history, in its feelings,
ceding to its power until words (our top-level brain) will no longer
suffice; only feelings can. Words will simply not do it; in fact, words
are the antithesis of cure, inimical to any therapeutic progress, as
odd as that sounds, because they are too often used for a defense. As a
matter of fact, in many situations the more the intellectual brain is
active the more suppressed the feeling centers are.
I practiced Freudian-oriented psychotherapy for many years. One
key reason was that there was relatively nothing else for the practice
of dynamic psychotherapy. At least Freud posited an unconscious, and
were he alive today I am sure he would not be a Freudian.
Let me start with my first important observation in therapy. A
young man in conventional group therapy was recounting a visit he made
in New York to see Raphael Ortiz in the theater of the absurd. He said
that Ortiz was marching up and down the stage shouting mama! And
inviting the audience to do the same. When they did many people in the
audience began to cry and scream. I encouraged this young man to do the
same. He refused but I insisted. Finally he began to scream mama!,
fell off the chair and was writhing in pain on the floor. It went on
for a half hour, something I had never seen before. When he came out
of it he touched the carpet and said, “I can feel!” He felt different.
I taped this session and for years afterward I listened to it to see
what secrets this held. I also tried this again on other patients with
very much the same result. I knew that I saw something that therapists
practically never see but I did not know what it meant. I finally
figured out what it meant only years later. I tried to see what these
patients had in common. It was feelings—access to feelings that made
the difference. It would take another twenty five years to figure out
what was going on inside the person and her brain; but there was some
basic truth I had uncovered. The result, I believe, is a new paradigm
in psychotherapy; and it is not just a belief.
Obviously, if we allow patients to go deeply into their past without
any intellectual interference we can learn so much. There lies a
sequestered reality undreamed of in our field. And there lies the cure.
By “cure” I mean arriving at ultimate causes. If we see time after
time that those with migraine often relive oxygen deprivation at birth
we begin to realize that perhaps oxygen deprivation may be one “cause”
of later migraine. Particularly when those migraine begin to disappear
after many relivings. This without a fixed theoretical mind-set. The
same is true of many symptoms. Until we see in therapy the relationship
between high blood pressure and traumatic events around birth we cannot
alter it significantly. “Cure” means addressing and reliving the
ultimate cause of our behavior and physical problems. We cannot do that
until we acknowledge that very early events, even before birth, are
imprinted and endure for a lifetime; that in order to eradicate serious
even life-threatening symptoms we need to go back and relive those
suffering aspects of an imprint that could not be experienced originally
due to their load of pain. In my book, Primal Healing, I document the
many, many studies that confirm the enduring power of early imprints.
There is no Jungian unconscious or shadow forces to blind us to
the patient’s reality, no id nor other mystical notions. We can observe
and later, we may draw some conclusions. Those conclusions would
follow our observations. The problem is the need to absorb current
observations within some kind of pre-established theory in order to make
sense out of it. Some of the past trauma makes no “sense” in the
ordinary scheme of things. there are no words nor scenes to put to it. I
saw birth reliving for months and told my patients this was absolute
nonsense because a local university neurologic department said that it
was not possible. But they continued on and I had to reorient my
thinking. Not only is it possible but we have seen it now with
hundreds of patients from many countries of the world including those
individuals who never read about it in my books. It is a measurable
event. And we have researched it at the UCLA Pulmonary Laboratory as
well in several brainwave studies.
Thomas Kuhn wrote that in the evolution of science there are
periodic shifts or jumps that represent major changes in the direction
of a particular scientific discipline. He labeled these jumps Paradigm
Shifts. In our view, Primal Therapy and Primal Theory represent a major
paradigm shift in the science of psychology. And in the course of this
new perspective I want to demonstrate how a brain system designed to
allow us to function under stress is in fact at the root of our mental
problems. It is the story of the evolution of the brain and feelings.
And evolution cannot be ignored in the therapy of human beings. Let’s
take the case of deep depression. There are now modern techniques to
ameliorate it—from tranquilizers and pain killers to drilling holes in
the brain and probing deep down. The reason that we have had to used
drugs and surgery is because there is no therapy extant that can go deep
enough to affect the areas specifically involved in processing
emotional pain. We can and we do. It is why we can use the word
“cure.”
We in the profession and as patients may have a hard time embracing a
feeling approach that seems to contradict what we think is correct.
Namely, the value of ideas, insights and beliefs in assessing progress
in psychotherapy. Therapists take the patient’s word for it. That
should be the last thing we should be doing; for the left-brain
intellectual side can imagine all sorts of cures and epiphanies while
the subtext, the unconscious, is riddled with agonies. Neurosis is not
due to a lack of insights nor cured by them. What is curative is an
experiential therapy not a cognitive one.
If all we do in psychotherapy is no better than a religious
epiphany, we have not gained much. In religious states the person often
does feel much better, is more optimistic and ready to function. At
least our field has made some important progress in understanding the
life-long impact of early non-verbal or pre-verbal events on adult
behavior. And we need to measure those pre-verbal events with non-verbal
methods; those machines and blood tests that tell us what is lodged in
the deep recesses of the brain.
Each week brings new confirmation of our position: a study of
newborn rats who received just a small series of pain pricks showed
greater preference for alcohol as adults. None of this is a mystery any
more. The question remains, what to do about it? “It” is the imprint.
What to do is to understand that the suffering component of early
pre-verbal pain has never been felt and integrated; rather, it was coded
and stored waiting for its chance to meet up with prefrontal brain
cells for integration. We must go back slowly in therapy, neurosis in
reverse, to events that carry such a load of pain that only pieces of it
can be experienced at any one time; that is what is necessary. As I
mentioned, it is neurosis in reverse, a reverse where we must not skip
steps in retracing evolution. We cannot go back immediately to the
birth trauma.
What seems to have happened early on was that the pain of birth or
being left alone for hours right birth or not being touched in the first
months of life caused great pain. The suffering component of this pain
is sheared off and placed in storage while the precise memory of it may
be stored elsewhere. That is why a patient can recall in detail an
event, “They gave my dog away,” and yet take months to feel the pain of
it. What we do is recapture the hidden pain, the part that was sheared
off, and help the patient experience it over time. Never in one
session, but in many sessions over months and months. Anything else
defies evolution and the understanding of the valence of pain that
resides on the deepest levels of the unconscious.
A
study by Finnish scientists M. Huttunen and P. Niskanen investigated
children whose fathers died either while the mother was carrying or
during the first year of the child’s life. The offspring were examined
over a thirty-five year period using documentary evidence. Only those
who lost their father while the child was in the womb were at increased
risk of mental diseases, alcoholism/addiction, or criminal behavior.
Clearly, the emotional state of the mother was affected and that
possibly had lifelong deleterious affects on the child. The results of
this study suggest that the emotional state of the pregnant mother has
more long-term effects on the child than the emotional state of the
mother during the years following birth. And when we are investigating
addiction we must pay attention to womb-life.
Until there is a science of psychotherapy, one that coalesces with
modern neuroscience, there will be human suffering with no real chance
at relief and cure. Depressions, anxiety, phobias and obsessions will
go on ad infinitum. We need a new orientation to what we are doing, to
open up our frame of reference. We need to get away from the
perspective that views man as some kind of decorticate brain bereft of a
body and its hormones. We need to merge psychology with neurology and
biology so that man is not dissected into small pieces for study. And
once dissected each aspect becomes a subject for statistical analysis
which does not seem to advance psychotherapy as a science. We need a
radically new paradigm in psychology and psychotherapy; one that is
based on evolution, feelings and imprinted memory. Everywhere we have
looked, with thousands of patients from some twenty countries we have
found pain at the bottom of it all.
The question is how do we get rid of the pain? Up until now our
only recourse was to squelch it with tranquilizers or talk it to death
with myriad insights. We know now that the task is not to avoid that
unconscious pain, but to be awash in it. First we must go back and
relive the past memory in sequential order, a bit at a time, as it was
laid down. We need to be submerged in old painful feelings, let them
control us for a moment, and dialectically, we can then control them; no
longer the unconscious force driving our behavior and symptoms. There
is a way to be rid of the unconscious forces that give us nightmares,
high blood pressure and a myriad of act-outs, not the least of which are
sexual. We need to let that unconscious rise to the surface, shake us,
makes us cry and scream amid waves of pain and then, lo and behold, we
are free! And that freedom, that ability to feel, is ineffable. We can
(and have) measured it in the blood, in saliva and in the brain. And
finally, it is evident in the comportment of the patient. But the
testimony of patients is only one aspect of what we look at.
If we feel unloved by our parents to the depths of our soul we open
the channels finally to accept love—because we can feel. Until that
time the imprint will lock-in defenses and block feelings from getting
out or in. If we can feel hidden pain, and its context—its origins--we
give patients back their feelings, the most important gift any
therapist can offer them. This cannot happen if we think the
unconscious is some immutable power lurking in the dark antipodes of the
mind waiting to destroy us; some unthinking malevolent force of evil.
After all, when the disguise is ripped away from this so-called theory,
it is just another mystical notion devoid of any reality. Patients will
never get well based on mysticism.
I have taken my patients as deep and as remote in their past as
possible and I have never found a demon or dark, evil force. All I have
ever seen is sequestered pain. All that is there is pure need left
over from infancy when those needs should have been fulfilled. They are
here now because they were never fulfilled and resolved back then.
They drive us now as a reminder of a true lack of fulfillment early on.
We act-out now trying to find fulfillment but all we can ever find is
symbolic, hollow fulfillment that does nothing about the real need. We
must go back and feel that need in its original context and original
form; only then will we be free of it. We will have transformed the
“need for” (drugs, food, sex) into pure early need for love when it was a
matter of life itself.
How can we fight an enemy if we never know what it looks like? Are
feelings an enemy? Their force is. They remain an alien power
because they could not be integrated at the time; their valence was far
too strong. We are older and stronger now and can manage to face it.
I do use the word “cure,” which is not to be treated with
opprobrium, but rather a state to be sought after assiduously. If we
are able to travel back and down to the earliest days of life and undo
and redo imprinted history we can then use the term “cure.” We have
arrived at ultimate causes. If we do not travel back to the far reaches
of the unconscious we cannot use the term “cure.” We are but skimming
the surface, leaving a massive dark force intact. We need to insist
on the goal of cure and the avenues that get us there. Insights in
therapy will never get us there. Neurosis isn’t caused by a lack of
insights and cured by proferring them. It is not enough to state that
we want a cure for our patients; we need to see the proof, not just in
their statements but in the various changes in hormones, in other
biologic changes and in the brain function. In short, we must not
leave the body out of the equation, which too often happens in modern
day psychotherapy.
So what is it about reliving that is so important, indeed, the sine
qua non of any effective psychotherapy? It means acknowledging the
evolution of the brain. It means taking into consideration the role of
feelings in therapy. If it is done in a systematic fashion over many
months it is not at all dangerous. But then the problem is that the the
psychoanalytic view of the unconscious is a turn on the old religious
notion of the 1800s—dark and demonic forces (also known as the id or
shadow forces) marauding on levels beyond our reach. That is one
reason they stay away from it. But if they were ever to disregard that
warning, bypass that intellectual, insightful brain, and let patients
slip into their past they would see what lies in the unconscious. What
they would find is nothing more than our history, laid out in order
from the present to the most remote including birth and womb-life. And
it would not be approximate; it would be precise; memories lying in
storage waiting their turn to be connected to conscious awareness We
need to understand that the suffering component of early pre-verbal pain
has never been felt and integrated; rather, it was coded and stored
waiting for its chance to meet up with prefrontal brain cells for
integration. We must go back slowly in therapy, neurosis and evolution
in reverse, to events that carry such a load of pain that only pieces of
it can be experienced at any one time; that is what is necessary. That
is what cures.