tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post4699471459970425661..comments2024-02-11T18:16:53.445-08:00Comments on Janov's Reflections on the Human Condition: The Simple Truth is Revolutionary: Primal Therapy and Post Traumatic Stress DisorderArthur Janovhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16709863014923629409noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-65839096336826223622013-05-06T23:39:27.971-07:002013-05-06T23:39:27.971-07:00Hi Optimistintelligence,
Thanks for noticing the ...Hi Optimistintelligence,<br /><br />Thanks for noticing the conundrum my son and I are in.<br /><br />It's awful and makes my relations with both men and women a real struggle. When people find out what has happened they assume the worst or fail to comprehend the problem and tell us to forget the past and pull our socks together.<br /><br />Insights gained by my son and I are shocking. Nobody wants to know how extremely conditioned and prejudiced they are. Both women and men.<br /><br />Paul G.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-78991507081191719322013-04-17T23:38:12.953-07:002013-04-17T23:38:12.953-07:00Primal pain is also why governments and other inst...Primal pain is also why governments and other institutions don't work... Sorry to hear that Paul, thanks for your courage in sharing this reality concerning social dysfunctions. This is why I also believe in social activism. We will either create a more feeling world or we will create a world unfriendly to human life, and perhaps all life as we know it. (global warming etc.) Thanks for your courage.Optimistintelligencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14039482808526504312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-29560224699594499152013-03-09T15:18:02.871-08:002013-03-09T15:18:02.871-08:00To be precise, My son is 'mixing up' what ...To be precise, My son is 'mixing up' what happened to him when the state 'intervened' in his life as a three year old (when he was still in the critical window) but legislated into extremely abusive foster care because of the legal situation I already spoke about in previous posts. <br /><br />IE: He was abreacting/out in an extremely subjective way which was beyond my powers of empathy at that time.<br /><br />Funnily enough the male social worker (at the the time he was two yrs old) said: "Well Paul, if you can't look after the children, we have too". The Job Centre had withdrawn my benefits because I was not available for work due to trying to look after my children. But the social worker said I wasn't fit to be a Dad because I didn't have enough money or family resources. (The female social worker said I would have to take the mother to court; "Let's You and Him Fight" not).<br /><br />So now my son feels abandoned by me because I have to work now (but the state would not fund my parent hood then, even thought they spent £250,000 or more on trying to re-instate the mother with all the chattels, sorry, I mean children). So, he himself is not coping looking after his son (my grandson) because he is also struggling with compounded trauma (partly caused by the state when he was two yrs old) and total alienation from so called 'friends' who spout the same CBT bullshit the state does.<br /><br />If that sounds complicated, it is. Mostly because I am being forced to take responsibility for the sins of his father even though I have always done so where possible and been willing to anyway (despite not having the advantage of an education in law as well as an education in social services child protection protocols, not to mention the unexamined out right advantage of being a 'mother' in a state that puts women as absolute legal owners of their chattels, oops, I mean children). It's just that every one else who is not related to him is either dead or not in the least bit f*****g interested apart from me and his half sister).<br /><br />Paul G.<br /><br /><br /><br />Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-9348636177765089252013-03-09T14:41:07.584-08:002013-03-09T14:41:07.584-08:00Hi AnttiJ,
My sister in law runs a very successfu...Hi AnttiJ,<br /><br />My sister in law runs a very successful part state funded nursery (3 months onward) and still believes in slapping children but "of -course now we have to waste our time 'reasoning with them' "-.<br /><br />(No, I'm not making this up).<br /><br />Paul G.<br /><br /><br /><br />(I think she quite likes me really but doesn't dare admit it, for fear of making my older brother look like a t**t.<br /><br />Paul G. Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-56904899120447721372013-03-09T04:59:50.980-08:002013-03-09T04:59:50.980-08:00Paul,
"Except of course children over three ...Paul,<br /><br />"Except of course children over three need to be able to accept parents can't be there for them all the time."<br /><br />Unfortunately most children in the first world these days are put in daycare when they are only a few months old. Can't have either of the parents not working, it's unacceptable under unregulated capitalism. So the trauma of being away from your parents when you need them typically starts long before three years. I had a stay-at-home mom though, and I didn't go to daycare/kindergarten till I was 5. Of course, that is no guarantee against trauma when you have neurotic parents. Also at three months old I was hospitalized for several months. I had a bad case of pneumonia, and I was hospitalized again for the same reason a year later. My older brothers were never hospitalized as infants or anything, but still they are even more fucked up than me. Which I guess just goes to show that gestation and birth determine so much, as Art has been saying for years.AnttiJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12010248788384946781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-78226085377140258712013-03-08T01:15:19.468-08:002013-03-08T01:15:19.468-08:00Hi,
I sent this one to my son, his mother died abo...Hi,<br />I sent this one to my son, his mother died about 8 years ago. He emailed me to say he dissolved and cried as a baby.<br /><br />I didn't get his reply email until much later; in the meantime we had an argument about me working too hard and putting work before my relationship with him and my grandson. He was in tears again and I was numb. . . . Sometimes as a parent you just can't be your children's therapist. . . Except of course children over three need to be able to accept parents can't be there for them all the time. That would be an act out indeed. I think he got the message but it was a cruel stroke of fate that put us into the situation where I had to spell it out for him.<br />After that I was also on the floor in a mess. <br /><br />This sort of thing happens every Monday after weekend visits with my kids. It's like being stuck on rinse as the resonance down triggers off my boarding school alienation and then earlier infant abandonment and still earlier trauma.<br /><br />'Other people' in our lives have utterly not a clue as to what's going on for us. "Pull yourself together" etc. . .<br /><br /><br /><br />Paul G.<br /> Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.com