tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post3663841197977026970..comments2024-02-11T18:16:53.445-08:00Comments on Janov's Reflections on the Human Condition: The Simple Truth is Revolutionary: Anthony Wiener and His Sexual CompulsionArthur Janovhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16709863014923629409noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-30667630748421123822013-09-10T10:50:48.772-07:002013-09-10T10:50:48.772-07:00Having been the victim of repeated sexual abuse as...Having been the victim of repeated sexual abuse as a child, after much study, therapy and participating in research for this issue, I am convinced of one thing. These people can NOT be cured. Their urges go beyond their intelligence. For my own self, I believe they should be destroyed. As in shot at dawn.<br /><br />I also finally learned that to heal my self or at least manage the demons this left with me that my biggest problem was to forgive myself for having enjoyed this as a child who didn't know better and believed I was being loved. I was an orphan and this left me with horrible problems of rage, mistrust and the inability to EVER enjoy sex as an adult. However, I did decide I would not let this rule my future. I learned to forgive the Sicko who put me thru this. I did not want to give him control over my life and future. But I could have easily killed him when I first realized what he had done to me.<br />Had I not learned to manage these demons I could have easily killed him as well as many other people who abused me as I lived in so many different homes, growing up. Today, I am left with the inability to accept or trust love. Numb to most normal emotions but have lived a very successful life as a workaholic . <br /><br />I believe Wiener is a dangerous predator and is at risk of his sexually deviation escalating into worse acts. <br />9-10-13Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07855218690477663958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-31507761135527776802013-08-18T06:09:07.918-07:002013-08-18T06:09:07.918-07:00An email comment:
"This blog should be in th...An email comment: <br /><em>"This blog should be in the New York Times! Just finished Life Before Birth. Tough reading because of the biology/chemistry; nevertheless I know from personal experience that unconscious trauma from childhood can be retrieved. I doubt that I've ever gone to "before birth" but it had to have been extremely painful and dangerous, given the circumstances of a dying father, a raging war, and an unstable mother."</em>Arthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-91515113488667014302013-08-11T17:05:40.405-07:002013-08-11T17:05:40.405-07:00i just watched how deeply and truly regretful mr. ...i just watched how deeply and truly regretful mr. weiner told he was in the press conference two years ago. it reminds me of our ability to "truly" forgive... when there is a need for control.<br /> <br />do we really know what it means to regret of doing something or forgive somebody (not be misteriosly triggered by someones reactions)?<br />will we ever be able to measure it objectively?<br />because the possibilities for cheating are many, many... and are not very much life supporting.<br /><br />how deep is the regret and forgiveness? the same as the need. the same as the acceptance of reality. but we are too busy proving to someone that we are sincere. to busy defending. to busy cheating again. <br />why? <br />it is perfectly ok not to know why before we are ready to know why.<br />but i sense... there probably is pain involved! reason involved! past involved.<br /><br />vukonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-46009638435069523812013-08-09T11:43:01.879-07:002013-08-09T11:43:01.879-07:00Planespotter: I spent part of the war around the B...Planespotter: I spent part of the war around the Blitz in London. It was an awful sight, all those bombed out buildings. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-61488044512387066462013-08-09T01:47:34.907-07:002013-08-09T01:47:34.907-07:00Art!
Do you know how confident I am on the cause ...Art!<br /><br />Do you know how confident I am on the cause for cause... effect and consequence... that it is an impact driven by anxiety etc? <br />I can in context of content be so clear about what it is I'm writing about and a while later be far away and be completely without "ability of concentration"... be aware in the process. That is where ADHD and other symptomatic explanations have its source... that is not difficult for me to understand!<br />How the brain works to make this… for the academic impossible to become possible... that is for them to learn about… then we have the revolution in sight!<br /><br />Frank <br />Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242354226308728116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-34211984992619007362013-08-08T22:42:43.053-07:002013-08-08T22:42:43.053-07:00Someone who I worked with in the past, was fond of...Someone who I worked with in the past, was fond of whipping out his "Todger" at odd and inopportune times. He has now just left his wife and gone on a mid life crisis drinking spree of many months because he is trying to find something, but obviously does not know what. He is one of those people who everyone liked, but at the same time he now talks for England. It's almost as though if he shut up for a minute he might hear his little self crying in loneliness. <br /><br />On another note Art, I have sometimes wondered about a post war British fetish of Gas masks. It seems that the British porn industry produced magazines dedicated to this. Then in the late 80's or so they died out as those who were drawn to this either died or lost sexual compulsion due to age. I can appreciate that they would have been very young during the war and experienced either wearing a gas mask or seeing Mothers and Fathers wearing Gas masks. The trauma of war or maybe being really fussed over by mask wearing parents in a bomb shelter in an otherwise unloving cold household might have created the link between being loved (mutated into a sexual fetish) and these strange face masks? It is fascinating how these convoluted links come into being.planespotterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315637682741508786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-32358606975308962252013-08-04T11:03:54.000-07:002013-08-04T11:03:54.000-07:00I remember someone saying that 'politics is th...I remember someone saying that 'politics is the province of the psychopath'....I think it would be difficult or impossible to treat an individual like this?DavidWoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17563542424432880628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-453533373874322772013-08-03T10:09:01.790-07:002013-08-03T10:09:01.790-07:00An email comment:
"Fascinating as always. I...An email comment: <br /><em>"Fascinating as always. I also am reminded of how this also plays a part in the attempts to drop into physical and non verbal abreaction and views so prevalent in religions and psychologies bent on control and repression. Dropping down two early leaves one defenseless as you noted in your comments about pain and hypnosis. It is then possible to entrap the mind in some pretty bizarre beliefs and act outs. It feels right to people because it feels so close to the source of their discomforts, yet it is purely symbolic and over loading. So the Weiners of this world end up being treated by a sick society in ways that only mask and further their problems, and like a thin balloon skin around way too much pressure it takes for little for the balloon to explode, This analogy causes me to wonder how many such "explosions" of the first line a system can handle before complete break down. Integration of course needs a sense of clear connection to current stresses, handling them so that one has a greater sense of security and sense of conquest over helplessness, and then beginning to slowly feel our way gradually into what must be the wordless terror of the "infant mind". The more I feel the more I understand your words, and that leaves me ever more convinced of your message Art. I wonder if people would be so convinced of "self help" and diving into wordless realms of consciousness if they had some sense of the term "mindless terror". It takes a clinic to heal what a community did to a child, and perhaps a new community. I am only speculating here, but I do think you will finally be vindicated and followed increasingly in social attempts to heal itself.<br /></em>"Arthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-16026335376269475882013-08-03T09:46:55.576-07:002013-08-03T09:46:55.576-07:00Another comment by Marco:
"Here are two more ...Another comment by Marco:<br /><em>"Here are two more (and last) poems by Emily Dickinson:<br /><br />Here's the compassion that probably motivates every true humanitarian:<br /><br />If I can stop <br /><br /><br />If I can stop one heart from breaking,<br />I shall not live in vain;<br />If I can ease one life the aching,<br />Or cool one pain,<br />Or help one fainting robin<br />Unto his nest again,<br />I shall not live in vain.<br /><br /><br />© Emily Dickinson. <br /><br /><br />And...I think Emily would understand what I mean when I say that talking to most people is like talking to brick walls:<br /><br /><br />This is my letter to the world,<br />That never wrote to me,-- <br />The simple news that Nature told, <br />With tender majesty. <br />Her message is committed <br />To hands I cannot see; <br />For love of her, sweet countrymen,<br />Judge tenderly of me! <br /><br />Emily Dickinson<br /><br />Marco"</em>Arthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-43796987305803164042013-08-03T09:46:16.240-07:002013-08-03T09:46:16.240-07:00A comment from Marco:
"I have never heard of...A comment from Marco: <br /><em>"I have never heard of Anthony Weiner, but I feel for these people anyways.One other public figure I have read about lately was a Prof. John Nash at Princeton,a Nobel Prize winner, who was schizophrenic. They made a movie about him called "A Beautiful Mind".Naturally no alternatives to existing treatments were mentionned in the film.<br /><br />Luckily one of my main problems is not horrible schizophrenia ,but rather neurotic anger.I know that just reading books can't really help deeply. Nevertheless, I re-read last night the chapter "The Basis of fear and anger" in "The Primal Scream" which helped a bit. While reading,my anger and tension dissolved somewhat, and some of the underlying hurt began to rise. How wonderful to be understood, that someone like Janov can sense and feel behind the anger to the underlying condition! So I wish to thank the good and insightful Dr Janov for this indirect support from this and his other books.Here's the sentence from the chapter that always gets me: <br /><br />"I believe that the angry man is the unloved man- the man who could not be what he was...""</em><br /><br />MarcoArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-62002296273809143562013-08-01T17:28:11.018-07:002013-08-01T17:28:11.018-07:00Lots of people 'flash'. They don't us...Lots of people 'flash'. They don't use their genitals but they reveal very private secrets about themselves. They want their 'private parts' to be known by a friend. They want to create an intimate relationship with someone......anyone.<br /><br />Real friendliness is always intimate - it's not something you can just spread around. The irony is that most people are afraid of real intimacy -- they never proceed past the 'flash point' even after they have been married for decades.<br /><br />I know a female flasher. She flashes her body parts and she also reveals very personal secrets. Her self-manufactured illusion of an intimate relationship feels real as it resonates with her unfulfilled needs. As she gets closer to her needs, the powerful force of those needs makes the relationship feel more real to her....as if it were real love. The POWER of love. It's not the power of love, it's the power of need. And sometimes she diverts that power into a neurotic sexual release.<br /><br />None of it is real. And no amount of lecturing from me can convince a blind love-sick girl to walk away from her life-sucking leech of a boyfriend. He intimately exploits her weaknesses and triggers her powerful needs. The POWER of love.<br /><br />When she is drunk, she flashes in many different ways to any and every male in the room. She is a guaranteed good time. When she wakes up the next morning, she can't live with herself, knowing that she betrayed her boyfriend so easily. She feels like she has no integrity. And she still hasn't read a single word of Primal Healing. I have given up on her for good.Richard Atkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587935146938446604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-22109869376376427432013-07-31T10:16:19.991-07:002013-07-31T10:16:19.991-07:00Bill Clinton, one of the smartest guys in the worl...Bill Clinton, one of the smartest guys in the world, and David Petraeus, one of the most disciplined guys in the world, are living proof that intellect and will virtually dissolve in the face of imprinted, unmet need. "Mr. President! General! ...what were you thinking?!" But 'thinking' has nothing to do with it. Lines one and two trump third line every time, and even before line three knows it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-82844792699007300502013-07-31T03:07:14.899-07:002013-07-31T03:07:14.899-07:00The logic of being illogical in academic circles!
...The logic of being illogical in academic circles!<br /><br />Fundamentals of the terms of academics in psychiatry and psychology are the field of medicine and cognitive activity and not as it ought logically thinking of what caused the symptoms.<br /><br />The cognitive activity an academic phenomenon... phenomenon to not be aware of the hopeless cognitive activity against physiological reactions accompanying the child in us... resulting in physiological reactions now cognitive interpreted. This is the main issue to be solved within psychiatry and psychology... the issue of physiological reactions from the child in us.<br /><br />Phenomenon of the child in academic circles do not allow themselves to be recognized for their own sense due to an academic formation as already passed possibilities to admit something be from long time ago... to be part of what the academic formation includes. In other words... that academics would devote his time to the child itself is not intellectually possible as it then recognizes their own ignorance of being academics!<br /><br />Getting help from academics is disastrous for the sufferer as academics need to see themselves as knowledgeable about something they cannot possibly be.<br /><br />If we do not first cleared what lies in our way to achieve an academic education in psychiatry and psychology... then will neo cortex alone be the one who "decides"!<br /><br />Frank<br />Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242354226308728116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-1919879487350414652013-07-30T17:35:21.982-07:002013-07-30T17:35:21.982-07:00I am sure your writing skill is still improving, A...I am sure your writing skill is still improving, Art. This article was interesting and very easy to understand.Richard Atkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587935146938446604noreply@blogger.com