tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post4912446315928565401..comments2024-02-11T18:16:53.445-08:00Comments on Janov's Reflections on the Human Condition: The Simple Truth is Revolutionary: More on FeelingsArthur Janovhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16709863014923629409noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-75397676508148290572016-04-12T17:26:16.045-07:002016-04-12T17:26:16.045-07:00Thank you for reading the blog. artThank you for reading the blog. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-87216708818870719952016-04-06T20:56:47.691-07:002016-04-06T20:56:47.691-07:00thanks so much. artthanks so much. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-13837125958759003572016-04-06T00:54:11.989-07:002016-04-06T00:54:11.989-07:00Beautiful and humbling, it made me feel, thanks ;-...Beautiful and humbling, it made me feel, thanks ;-)raindoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09714998714610881831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-88417480035762542522016-04-05T14:34:01.003-07:002016-04-05T14:34:01.003-07:00I can so relate to this story about human meanness...I can so relate to this story about human meanness, made more acute because it comes from a parent, and a psycho Western culture that still demands that one should honor one's mother and father no matter what (to hell with that!).My own story revolves around my mother's obsession that I was lazy, lazy, lazy, lazy.Nothing I could say could convince her otherwise, including that I was first in my class, and that took some work. But no: her fascist hate towards me would still spew out. Dirty lazy disgusting Marco. While the "nice" old man would walk away not defending me, but at least not contributing to the hate.He would come out with some stupid banality like : "can't we just get along?" . Answer: NO! Decades later, even if things are better, I still feel that I have never been able to really get to the root of the problem between my mother and I, some unconscious fixation that has never been severed.Perhaps this pleading for love might result in some breakthrough, but, I must say, my first reaction to this pleading for love is: I won't give her or anyone else the satisfaction to know that she hurt me. Rather, I will fight back and resist as I have all my life. ( "The angry man is the unloved man..."- Janov, The Primal Scream )<br /><br />I saw some similarities with my situation in a book I read recently called " Will there ever be a morning?" , which is the autobiography of a woman who was a famous actress at one time, Francis Farmer ( 30s and 40s). She had a wild temper and very negative reputation in Hollywood ( aspects of which she justifiably hated), was alcoholic, yet was highly sensitive and artistic. Her parents put here away in an asylum for 8 years, in the late 40s and early 50s, a totally unjustified commitment in a squalid cruel institution. Anyways, her and her psycho eccentric mother seemed to be locked in an unending battle which neither could sever or understand.<br /><br />Marco Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-55816329258759623212016-04-05T06:28:47.248-07:002016-04-05T06:28:47.248-07:00Hi Art,
some days ago I went through the throes!! ...Hi Art,<br />some days ago I went through the throes!! of a 88 years...Lady(?9 the mother of my suicided friend? <br />She treated me with disrespect,cynical, and full of hatred!<br /><br />I wonder how on earth someone of that Age could be that infamous ...<br />I hope that if I ever would reach that Age I will be mor of your <br />"style" treating People.<br />Yours emanuel<br />I wonder why on earth someone that old... can be so full of hate, denigrating me,being cynical toward m e ...!<br /><br />I once was the "waste -bag" -in earnest- of him and his whole Family!<br /><br />As You Show it ; old -Age cannot be the culprit of being like her.<br /><br />If ever reach that Age ... I hope I will be more like You!!!<br />Yours emanuelemanuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01380331335118885426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-68656230237760090262016-04-04T14:58:05.771-07:002016-04-04T14:58:05.771-07:00I think this is one of your best contributions to ...I think this is one of your best contributions to date Art - it's personal, direct, heartfelt and purposeful and is devoid of intellectual clinical mumbo-jumbo - more of this please.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09743501332534825927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-72960204640591367942016-04-04T14:00:22.091-07:002016-04-04T14:00:22.091-07:00And my answer: Not easy. artAnd my answer: Not easy. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-33523456240799964192016-04-04T13:59:24.537-07:002016-04-04T13:59:24.537-07:00An email comment:
"Wow Art: However did yo...An email comment:<br />"<em>Wow Art: However did you manage to make it??????? Had that been me, I am, sure I would have died. It boggles my mind to think you got a bachelors let alone a masters and a PhD. What a great, great story..</em>"Arthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-61081936352354586082016-04-04T13:57:47.145-07:002016-04-04T13:57:47.145-07:00Terrific. artTerrific. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-44794456934004912016-04-04T10:18:21.188-07:002016-04-04T10:18:21.188-07:00Ya have to feel it to heal it.Ya have to feel it to heal it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09743501332534825927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-91881411300445248582016-04-04T10:07:13.414-07:002016-04-04T10:07:13.414-07:00There is a fence, a fence between the world that w...There is a fence, a fence between the world that wants me to conform and and be normal, and me who want to be myself. It's lonely on my side, but I feel there is life here, real life. And I enjoy it.Erik Lundholmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488110108743043969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-68103374520896996482016-04-03T06:03:55.330-07:002016-04-03T06:03:55.330-07:00Hi Art,
I wonder if you have encountered the '...Hi Art,<br /><br />I wonder if you have encountered the 'Slow Movement'?<br /><br />perhaps some of the people involved might be interested in Primal as 'Slow' seems to appeal to the parasympathetic in us. That as you said in some much earlier posts seems to be the nervous system function that allows for access to imprints. . . Thus by proxy, Primal is already an unwitting member of the 'Slow Movement'.<br /><br />Check out Carl Honore and:<br /><br />Professor Guttorm Fløistad who summarised the philosophy thus:<br /><br /> "The only thing for certain is that everything changes. The rate of change increases. If you want to hang on you better speed up. That is the message of today. It could however be useful to remind everyone that our basic needs never change. The need to be seen and appreciated! It is the need to belong. The need for nearness and care, and for a little love! This is given only through slowness in human relations. In order to master changes, we have to recover slowness, reflection and togetherness. There we will find real renewal."Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-86838401716094415822016-04-03T02:14:53.647-07:002016-04-03T02:14:53.647-07:00A little can go a long way...a parent has a respon...A little can go a long way...a parent has a responsibility to their child. Not only the responsibility of caring and teaching them how to be in life, they have the responsibility to recognize a child who is doing well, and to make sure that they (the parent )have the ability to know this and acknowledges, relays this fact to their child. Now, in this world, the way kids are...they may not even listen to the parent who may tell them how good they are doing. But still a lot of children do listen when their parents acknowledge that the child has done well. Not to acknowledge a child when they are doing well, is such a waste. Now the parent doesn't really think about how the relationship will be with their child before it is born; because it is not a "spontaneous" thought; spontaneity is what is "out there today". Sure being spontaneous is a good thing at times, but in the case of being a parent and giving no thought to their child's mental well-being; spontaneity is not good in that case. Some do take an interest; those that do are showing love and not mental abuse. Common sense; use common sense when being a parent. What just because the parent never received acknowledgement from their parents then their own child must suffer? To acknowledge that a child is doing well, and to tell that child periodically, is a good thing for parent/child relationship. Does one have so little a heart and not enough brains to give their own child a "boost" with their lives ? A "mental boost". <br />Now it's not even that with so many parents....it's that many of them are just "lost" and don't even know how to parent. They want to be in with "the era" and that is showing uncaring cold aggressiveness (as many teenagers are now; which is sad). Just a recognition and acknowledgement from a parent to a good child; that is part of the love. beachcoast7https://www.blogger.com/profile/17348238170525257587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-42881097411802592092016-04-02T18:16:09.134-07:002016-04-02T18:16:09.134-07:00Dr. Janov,
You wrote: “I feel like a failure”. How...Dr. Janov,<br />You wrote: “I feel like a failure”. How do you feel today?<br /> <br />For what my five cent wisdom is worth, you are great wonderful and a human being I love and respect. <br />Why? <br />You gave me the key to a door, a door I know exists somewhere, but couldn’t find in my ever present pain.<br />You not only gave me the key, you showed me the reason why I must open this door <br />– it is the door to consciousness. <br />I’m forever grateful to you. <br /><br />You ask: “So now if you ask if I started out to change the world? I would say “No, I just never wanted the world to change me. I never wanted to join their world. That would have been the end of me”.<br />I’m so glad that you never joined their world, because you would have changed and never written any of your books the world so desperately need.<br />BTW, I think the same way. I never liked to be someone else. <br />Sieglinde<br />S. W. Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12087227301358286386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-81899349883180222042016-04-02T14:41:02.264-07:002016-04-02T14:41:02.264-07:00Beautiful, thanks!Beautiful, thanks!Erik Lundholmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488110108743043969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-90829464650219540922016-04-02T14:05:31.890-07:002016-04-02T14:05:31.890-07:00Hello Art!
One more of your fantastic post!
"...Hello Art!<br />One more of your fantastic post!<br />"So now if you ask if I started out to change the world? I would say “No, I just never wanted the world to change me. I never wanted to join their world. That would have been the end of me”". Yes... we should be at the wrong part of our brain then to possible help ourselves! But we also need to be where we are to get the opportunity to be at the right place in our brain because we are to lost to do anything like it by our self... we do not know what to say or do. I know you help but most of us need the opportunity to get the help we need.<br /><br />Your Frank<br />Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242354226308728116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-50914892567712355572016-04-02T14:01:31.323-07:002016-04-02T14:01:31.323-07:00Hello Art!
One more of your fantastic post!
"...Hello Art!<br />One more of your fantastic post!<br />"So now if you ask if I started out to change the world? I would say “No, I just never wanted the world to change me. I never wanted to join their world. That would have been the end of me”". Yes... we should be at the wrong part of our brain then to possible help ourselves! But we also need to be where we are to get the opportunity to be at the right place in our brain because we are to lost to do anything like it by our self... we do not know what to say or do. I know you help but most of us need the opportunity to get the help we need.<br /><br />Your FrankFrankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242354226308728116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-33211638890134798652016-04-02T12:00:59.922-07:002016-04-02T12:00:59.922-07:00This post touched me. This post touched me. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17667358260371704333noreply@blogger.com