tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post2180822441439903375..comments2024-02-11T18:16:53.445-08:00Comments on Janov's Reflections on the Human Condition: The Simple Truth is Revolutionary: "On Why They Kill Themselves at the End" and "On Murder Again" RepublishedArthur Janovhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16709863014923629409noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-40884399894778338832012-12-28T15:43:22.609-08:002012-12-28T15:43:22.609-08:00Hi Sieglinde
I am not sure these Mothers know the...Hi Sieglinde<br /><br />I am not sure these Mothers know they are being cold towards their own children as they are simply repeating their own early trauma. They see coldness, harshness, violence and abuse as normal. They show warmth to other children because they too received warmth from outside the family. I wonder whether so many extramarital affairs are due to this. Looking for those fleeting moments of kindness that their Brain sucked up like a dry sponge.planespotterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315637682741508786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-5943095454084784572012-12-23T06:37:21.453-08:002012-12-23T06:37:21.453-08:00Hi planespotter,
Yes, moms can change when strange...Hi planespotter,<br />Yes, moms can change when strangers are around. They turn 180 degrees and show a side you never see when you are with mom. That means they are aware (not continuous why) that they behave coldly toward their children.<br />Yes, these moms are in pain themselves, but what of the child who needs love and can’t get it?<br />Sieglinde <br />S. W. Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12087227301358286386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-91167543356923869972012-12-21T08:04:52.159-08:002012-12-21T08:04:52.159-08:00"You are all so bright! art"
A quick a..."You are all so bright! art"<br /><br /><br />A quick article on praising intelligence instead of effort:<br /><br />http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/Dec/21/2012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-85547859598803932872012-12-20T14:33:06.891-08:002012-12-20T14:33:06.891-08:00Hi Sieglinde
Mothers always know best don't t...Hi Sieglinde<br /><br />Mothers always know best don't they. Some Mothers don this tough hard shell to hide thier own insecurity and thus warm love becomes tough love which ain't love it's just tough. From inside the armour this woman just feels lost, alone and frightened but seen from outside some see her as a tough no nonsense Hockey Mom and this is seen as positive traight. A Mum "cares' for her son and is also blind to her own pain so whatever she does is right and society often backs her up because we all love, adore and worship our Mum's don't we because then we don't have to face the monster she was on occassion as a tiny child. How many people have the guts to confront a Mother and tell her she is wrong. Society is Mum's. Crack up and you can shoot the Monster with an assault rifle. Those same tough Mum's are often incredibly kind to other people's children and fuss over them and I can imagine the mind searing rage that the gun toting toddler feels as he sprays the poor little recipients of his own Mum's love screaming "that's my love" inside his head.planespotterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315637682741508786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-45751695732791395832012-12-20T14:18:19.514-08:002012-12-20T14:18:19.514-08:00Hi Richard
I got a bit of the improper connection...Hi Richard<br /><br />I got a bit of the improper connections today. Worried a client would'nt pay me I ended up seeing total disaster in front of me. I got incredibly upset and then an e-mail came through which disproved my fear. I then find myself walking home with a developing migraine (they are'nt very bad compared to a few years ago) and great anger welled up. It's all so blooody confusing. However a year ago if that had happened I might have been a lot worse. I don't know what is right or wrong sometimes. planespotterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315637682741508786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-12494876157568821042012-12-20T13:57:00.338-08:002012-12-20T13:57:00.338-08:00You are all so bright! artYou are all so bright! artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-17134119269287999832012-12-20T10:41:15.768-08:002012-12-20T10:41:15.768-08:00Hi,
Could it be that for some 'revenge is swe...Hi,<br /><br />Could it be that for some 'revenge is sweet'? I have tasted the sweetness of revenge, in the past I had a sweet tooth for it but now I am a bit diabetic and look for a peaceful life. . .<br /><br />I have found myself continually 'baited' over long periods by certain types, including my older brother (unresolved sibling rivalry perhaps) and then, eventually this baiting starts to feel like bullying and finally I snap. First as a child, involuntarily and then later as an adult with a ne-cortex I can start plotting my revenge can't I? I don't necessarily 'need' to know about my motive, I just need to believe in the force of my feelings toward another person.<br /><br />In a war zone the 'others' are already targeted, so it's not difficult to act out revenge on a whim. Frankly speaking, in a country which encourages people to carry arms, loaded, then, well, it's a war zone waiting to happen isn't it?<br /><br />Paul G.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006514330039884557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-28601687018610366292012-12-19T16:48:09.052-08:002012-12-19T16:48:09.052-08:00he did know what he was doing while he did it, but...he did know what he was doing while he did it, but he didn't know how the feeling related to the present; he wasn't aware that the feeling was from the past. his brain formed improper connections all the way from bottom to top. his understanding of the present became distorted so that he could neurotically explain the rage. a neurotic explanation allows for a neurotic solution. any type of believable solution will stave off feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. so he blamed everybody and killed them.<br /><br />regardless of whether you are murdering or primalling, the neocortex never goes offline. during a primal, some of it's functions go offline, but as a whole, the neocortex remains online so that it can receive signals coming from the deep while continuing to provide the awareness of how the feeling relates to the present. it is this awareness that allows the signals to form proper connections.Richard Atkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587935146938446604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-72027100635431858372012-12-19T16:14:15.812-08:002012-12-19T16:14:15.812-08:00to all,
My question: why is the killer not just k...to all,<br /><br />My question: why is the killer not just killing himself, why does he need to kill others, even children?<br /><br />My assumption in the latest Sandy Hook killing is in the killers history. He was a loner, (Asperger symptom), but a good student (left hemisphere), and his mother was a frequent guest in the bar. School friends ignored him, and he was taking SSRI’s (leaky gates).<br /><br />Was he a mercy-killer, believing that the little kids feel as lonely as he used to feel and for this reason they are better off dead?<br />Or as the Huffington Post reports: “Nancy Lanza, the mother of the Sandy Hook shooter, was in the process of having her son committed to a psychiatric facility when he went on the mass shooting spree, a lifelong family acquaintance told Fox News. - Nancy Lanza reportedly volunteered with kindergartners at the school for several years. Flashman said that Adam "believed she cared more for the children than she did for him."<br /><br />Besides my observation, the Connecticut shooting is not entering my head. I instinctively reject this horrible reality – it hurt too much.<br />Sieglinde<br />S. W. Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12087227301358286386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-8952799563037547192012-12-19T09:48:09.750-08:002012-12-19T09:48:09.750-08:00Emanuel: Though I know a lot, it is still a myster...Emanuel: Though I know a lot, it is still a mystery. I can explain but not understand it. artArthur Janovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009571728800026496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-20270694012303677822012-12-19T05:08:46.214-08:002012-12-19T05:08:46.214-08:00Hi Art,I just return from a "christmas visit&...Hi Art,I just return from a "christmas visit" to the mother of my friend ,who killed himself by entering a power plant (electric) some 12 years ago..<br />A very!! painfull death by the way , as I was told by an expert...<br />She expressed her 2gratitude" ( to whom evr..) that he did n o t kill <br />his former pyschotherapist(sic!) who behaved like an a...hole!!<br /><br />So my naive question:why do "they " not all kill "only" themselves?<br />And still more naive -a german soldier ordered the illegal bombing of <br />an oil carrier by NATO jets and killed therby dozens of children !1<br />And now this "hero" became a general ...<br />Yours emanuel<br />emanuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01380331335118885426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-60068874389511137892012-12-19T00:47:00.566-08:002012-12-19T00:47:00.566-08:00So Christmas of light and joy are illusions that p...So Christmas of light and joy are illusions that protects us from knowing what was really... against what we could not do... what we really would have done if the possibility should have been... for the protection of our own lives. What a tragedy<br /><br />What a memory with such incredible impact!<br /><br />There are no Christmas presents that protects us from suffering... but Christmas was a time when we as small had the illusion of light and joy... a time of illustrated memories that can help us back close to suffering... close to suffering for the benefit of a primal therapeutic process.<br /><br />What an incredible win it is for the market to celebrate Christmas... a "profit" that is nothing but a further loss for needy... loss for illusions about that life is amazing.<br /><br />This... something for us to remember and we will be here now... there we was then... to be able to let go of now for what it was then... an illusion that kept us alive.. an illusion of love for survival.<br /><br />Frank.<br />Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242354226308728116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-31389932077171813322012-12-18T19:36:56.780-08:002012-12-18T19:36:56.780-08:00Your post is good and valid. But I do not think it...Your post is good and valid. But I do not think it would explain the Colorado movie theater shootings. In fact, so many contradictions in the media and facts leave one to wonder on many accounts. Lets just say that appearances, like many things in the media, can be deceiving.apollohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040184843184207525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420173096635836108.post-16200010531770011752012-12-18T14:55:20.445-08:002012-12-18T14:55:20.445-08:00They were both great posts the first time round to...They were both great posts the first time round too!<br /><br />This latest kid cracked and shot the woman who did not love him and maybe sadly killed all the kids she did "love" ie paid some attention to. planespotterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315637682741508786noreply@blogger.com